We all have fears. I’m not talking about the fear of snakes or spiders. I’m referring to the fears we have about ourselves and our interactions with others. Many of us tend to keep our fears private. We believe that exposing our fears makes us vulnerable and that vulnerability is a sign of weakness. […]Continue Reading... No Comments.
We are all vulnerable, but most of us don’t like to show or admit it. We equate vulnerability with weakness, and we don’t want to appear weak. In fact, we put a lot of energy into not appearing weak, and we say and do things to try and convince others that we are strong even […]Continue Reading... No Comments.
The other day four friends were walking in a park enjoying the beautiful weather. Natalia commented: Look at the blue sky with the beautiful clouds. Isn’t it wonderful? Stephen said: I prefer a clear sky. The clouds are distracting. Henry said: I think the clouds look threatening. It looks like it’s going […]Continue Reading... No Comments.
We all have different portfolios of strengths and weaknesses. Several best-selling books focus on developing and using your strengths. Sometimes, though, focusing on those strengths can lead us astray and even undermine our success. Be aware of your strengths We need to be acutely aware of both our strengths and our weaknesses, and I’ve always […]Continue Reading... No Comments.
Have you ever asked permission and received a “yes,” only to discover that it wasn’t really the yes you thought it was? This may seem like a strange question. We think of most decisions as being binary—yes or no. But while a “no” is fairly clear-cut, a yes can be more ambiguous. Consider this common […]Continue Reading... No Comments.
Many of us were taught how to speak effectively, but I’m not sure if we are ever taught how to listen effectively. And yet, every good conversation begins with good listening. Is listening a natural skill or can it be learned? We can all identify a good listener—that go-to person when we need advice, need […]Continue Reading... No Comments.
In the 1960s, philosopher Marshall McLuhan wrote a bestselling book, The Medium is the Massage: An Inventory of Effects. In it, he presented the case that a technological medium, in influencing how a message is perceived, becomes part of the content of that message; it is impossible to separate the two. Building on McLuhan’s theory, […]Continue Reading... No Comments.
Remember the imaginary play of your childhood? Whether we were racing cars through the city or treating a patient as a doctor, we enjoyed bringing toys to a world of make-believe where we channeled our creativity. Over time, our parents, peer pressure, and formal education may conspire to stifle our imaginations. We learned to be […]Continue Reading... No Comments.
No, I don’t mean shirt or jacket buttons. You know what I mean—our default reactions in tough moments. We all have them. Some of our friends, family, and colleagues—and especially our children—know exactly how to push our buttons. When they do, our reactive responses often lead to unproductive behaviors and outcomes. After years of conditioning, […]Continue Reading... No Comments.
The people from the Northeast have a reputation for being fast-paced and preoccupied with getting from here to there. They often walk with their minds multiprocessing and seldom pause to offer a “good morning.” I used to be one of those people. I’ll never forget an experience I had 16 years ago. I had recently […]Continue Reading... No Comments.